FF’s Take On Diabetes
Once again, I introduce you to the fabulous FF. I think he needs to further introduction 🙂
Saucy has asked me to write my experience of being the partner of a PWD. Luckily? (if that’s what you wanna call it) I’d had some previous knowledge of diabetes, as my mom is a type II who has recently become insulin dependent. I’d done my fair share of research on the topic, and talked/listened to my mom about what she was going through. This by no means makes me an expert or think that I know it all. Far from it. Just that I have an understanding of this disease and how it’s affecting the people that I care about.
Loving a PWD and living with a PWD are in two completely different universes. While my mom’s diagnosis definitely affected my life, (how could it not, she’s my mother!) I don’t live with my mom, so I had no idea the day to day maladies that come with diabetes. The finger sticks, multiple daily injections, the medications, how the medicine affects the body. I knew about sugar swings(high/low) but, hadn’t seen what a low looked like or how helpless it could render someone. The shaking, sweating, lightheadedness, nausea. The fear that getting a low can cause. The energy that it sucks out of someone. Or the mood swings that can be associated with highs. The erratic behavior. That it can wreak havoc on the bladder.
I’ve learned so much from Saucy! But the most important thing I’ve learned is that all I can do for her is to be there for her and encourage her. Supporting her to take care of herself really is my primary job function as a partner (aside from the juice boxes, raisins, or the occasional peanut butter sandwich at 3am or whenever a low strikes) But I do have to be aware of where her sugar levels are at, how much insulin she’s taking/taken. I need to know about any new medications she’s taking and how it can affect her diabetes. Just in case anything should (god forbid) happen.
Along that note, Saucy got a CGM(continuous glucose monitor) recently. Not only did she need to be taught everything about the use and care of this device, so did I. There’s a lot of responsibility that comes with being a partner of a PWD. However, that does not mean I’m her caretaker. I leave all the care up to Saucy, as she is truly the one responsible for herself. On occasion, I have had to step in and be firm when she’d have an “I don’t wanna have diabetes and I’m not going to take care of it kind of day” (those are fewer and far between since the introduction of the CGM and starting pumping again) So I go to endocrinology appointments with her, and I learned how to do a pod and sensor change with her.
As a side personal note here, I was terrified of needles when I met Saucy. I’d get faint whenever I got or saw someone being given a shot. No more! Over the past two years I’ve seen Saucy give herself more shots than I can count. I’ve helped change her pod/sensor which actually required me to push a needle into her. She has helped me conquer a fear.
So let’s stop tip toeing around the million dollar question. How do you deal with the fact that this disease could take the life of the person you love? As with any disease, the best way is to acknowledge it! But don’t let it consume you. It’s not like there’s an expiration date. And not to sound cliché but, everyone’s going to die sometime. So I take the highs with the lows and the good days with the bad because I love this gurl! And I want to spend every day like it’s our last, forever!
SWOON!!! I think now you guys are starting to see why I love this boy so much!!! Honestly, I don’t think I would be half as good about managing my diabetes if I didn’t have such a strong, supportive partner. He knows when to step in and help and when to let me sort things out for myself. He is just as excited about my new endocrinologist as I am. When I make changes to basal rates and carb ratios, he understands and can offer input. It’s wonderful. He makes having diabetes that much more bearable. XO